I post a lot of things on facebook for my family- my parents, my grandparents and cousins. But, mostly for me. I always say it is a good way to keep a journal of happenings that I can one day print into a book. A book of memories that I can peruse and relive when I am old. This is my first blog post since 2010. My friend, Charlene, and I said that we would hold each other accountable when we weren’t posting, but everyone knows how life gets in the way.
So, tonight I will try again.
I have read so many posted links to blogs, articles, opinion pieces etc about how important a dad’s role is in developing his daughter’s self esteem. How vitally important it is that he plays an active role in his daughter’s life for her to embrace the notion that she does not have to settle for any old Joe that comes knocking in her teenage and college years.
While I agree with this, I must say that I’ve known women who raise children alone who have seen those kids grow into self-motivated, confident adults without any type of self-worth issues. I have seen it, yes. But, not very often, and it is sad that their children, by some force or another, didn’t have the advantage of a well-rounded, family-around-the-dinner-table life.
Scott and I have talked and encouraged Maggie to not only dream big, but to do big. But, most importantly, we want our actions to say: Hey! Look at what you can do by not settling for less than God’s best for your life!
And for Scott, particularly, to show her: Maggie! This is how you should always be treated! The way I treat your mother and the way I treat you should help you see that you are worth an immeasurable amount.
So, Scott decided to put his actions into action. He asked his daughter on a date.
He made reservations at the American Girl Doll restaurant, because he wanted to SHOW Maggie that he cared about her interests. He brought her flowers to SHOW that he thinks this date is important.
He opened her door to SHOW her what a gentleman does for his wife.
He pulled out her chair and listened to her thoughts at dinner.
He thought of nice things to do for
her without breaking our budget. Food was minimally priced, surprisingly, yet perfect because it was right where he knew she’d like to be.
She was polite in return and was so very thankful for the time he had SHOWN her.
I believe that he is setting the tone for those formative teenage years, and with God’s guidance and His love, we pray that our daughter will grow into a self-assured, gracious Christian adult who will never ask the question: Am I good enough?
And instead ask: Is he who God has chosen for me? Is he good enough?
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